HAVE A GOOD COMPANY
The Zen monk and his disciple were walking throughout the market. While walking they were observing the people. Some were alone. Some were in groups. Many were looking sophisticated and gentlemen. Whereas a few were wicked. A few were helping other people and a few were mocking at other. Seeing this scenario the disciple asked his master about the importance of the good company. He asked," what would happen if anyone keep in contact with such gentlemen and what would with the wicked ones?"
The Zen master took his disciple to the fish market. They visited the fish shop where the fish were hanged on the thread. The master rubbed a thread with his two fingers and asked the disciple to smell. As he smelled he felt like omitting. The master asked," is it the real smell of the thread? No , it smells bad because of the fish hanged on it."
Later the master took him to the flower shop where fragrant garlands were tied to the thread. Master rubbed the thread and asked the disciple to sniff. He felt pleasant and satisfied. The master said," it is not the real smell of the thread , it smells cheerful because of the flowers and this is the answer to your question."
The disciple smiled and the master continued," you become like the people you accompany with. If you want to be virtuous and righteous, you need to be with such people."
How true it is! You should follow this advice to make your life more happy and productive. When you are surrounded with positive and energetic people you fill your mind and body with positivity and energy.
The famous motivational speaker Jim Rhon says
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
People around you shape your personality. You share the common traits. It is like mixing with the colors. When you dive into the blue color you become blue and diving into red, become red. People around you impact and influence your inner and outer world. Your brain gets programmed the way they are. Your physical and mental activities become similar to them. Your company reflects through your thinking and behaviour therefore it is said that the man is known by the company he keeps.
In my training programs I always urge people to be in a company with a person who is not just equal to you but who is two steps ahead to you in his/her personal or professional life.
Let's focus on five life transforming boosters, you can get from the people around you.
1. EMOTIONAL SUPPORT
It is a genuine reason that a human being wants to be in contact with other human being. To succeed in life everyone needs to have greater emotional balancing, good people around you understand this well so they support you emotionally. They understand your emotions and help you to identify and express them properly.
2. MOTIVATION
Motivated people around you motivates you to go far in your life. As they realise the importance of motivation in their lives , they always create motivational environment. They motivate you to achieve your personal and professional goals. They help you to bounce back whenever you find yourself defeated. If you have achievers around you , you get inspired and motivated from them.
3. KNOWLEDGE
If you have a company of experts in their respective fields, you get lot of knowledge from them. You can discuss with them on various topics. You can learn from them to make changes in you personal and professional life. You can seek advices to build your future.
4. POSITIVE ENERGY
Positive people around you make you positive. They listen, read and talk positive which create positive energy. You will find many to discourage you, but a few to encourage you. Encouragers possess positive attitude towards life. They feel positive energy and make others to feel the same.
5. GIVE DIRECTION TO YOUT LIFE
As you spend most of the time with the people around you , you tend to follow their way of living the life. They keep hold on your life style. Directly or indirectly they drive you. You consider their decisions in leading your life. They guide you. They give direction to your life. Right people direct you rightly whereas wrong people wrongly.
What type of people do you have around you ? Have you ever thought about this? Let's find out today. Do the following task.
# Take a sheet of paper and a pen
# Write the names of people with whom you spend most of your time.
( A person can be your family member, relative , friend, boss , colleague or else)
# Make a right mark (√) in front of those who make you positive and charge you with energy.
# Make a wrong mark (×) in front of those who make you negative and drain your energy.
# Count the numbers of both energy chargers and energy drainers.
# Focus on multiplying the number of energy chargers.
Be choosy in finding a company to grow in life.
Written by_
Mr. Abhijeet Manav
(Life Coach & Motivational Speaker)
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www.exceltrainings.in
