Abhijeet_talk: BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.”

-Blake Lively

Do you want to participate in the competition?

Do you want to crack the examination?

Do you want to start a new business?

Do you want to deliver a speech?

Do you want to bounce back from a recent failure?

Do you want to stay firm on your decision when others are discouraging you?

Do you want to do something that you have not done ever before?

Several things you want to accomplish in your life. You are expecting dreams to come into reality. You are excited to get your goals. You wish to bring everything to your doorsteps. You desire positive outcomes in every area of your life. This all could be possible for you if you have self-confidence. Yes, confidence assures you success. It is a superpower you can perpetually have in your life. This is a common trait you will find in all great people in the world. It is a secret behind every successful story.

Whether you are a student, a teacher, a manager, a businessman, or an entrepreneur, you need the confidence to get done everything in your respective professional, social or personal life.

What Is Confidence?

Confidence is a feeling of belief and trust in your abilities and skills that cause you to accomplish the task. It is a positive sense of having the specific strengths to control challenging situations effectively. You feel sure about your competencies. It is a motivating energy flow that makes you ready for life's experiences. Your mind and gut get ready to act on the spoken words.

A realistic approach toward your abilities makes you balanced for possessing healthy confidence. When you are doubtful about your abilities either you have a little confidence or too much confidence. In such scenarios, you can be underconfident or overconfident. Underconfidence prevents you from taking risks and blocks your opportunities whereas overconfidence gives you an unrealistic feeling of superiority and arrogance.

Confidence brings a personal sense of being capable and competent. It creates stronger self-realization of your capabilities. It gives you a sense of having enough strengths.

“With the realization of one’s potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.”

- Dalai Lama

Importance Of Being Confident

The great story of an American sprinter Wilma Rudolph can make you realize how important to have confidence in your life.

A premature child born in 1940, she suffered from polio at age 4. The doctor said that she would never walk again in her life. She tried to walk with the braces on her legs for years. She didn't stop and started participating in competitions. With her remarkable confidence, she could make her way to the Olympics and became the first American woman to win three track and field gold medals in Olympics in a single Olympics.

She fought against all the odds in her life and made her dream a reality. She could make it due to her belief in herself that she could do it. Her confidence brought the best out of her and became the live example of a winning spirit for the entire humanity.

You will find thousands of people around you who have achieved unimaginable things in their life with self-confidence. You require confidence, whether you are at the peak of success or struggling for the bread and butter. It has the power of turning nothing into everything. It can fetch you victory from defeat. You can create a world out of zero with confidence

“It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.”

-Oprah Winfrey

How To Be More Confident

Being confident is fascinating and admirable. A person with a lot of confidence gets respect and attention. He influences others. He makes his place in the crowd. Confidence is a virtue.

Though it seems to be difficult to instill this attribute, the good news is that it can be developed with the proper direction and efforts. Do you want to be more confident? Here are 10 ways to get significant and remarkable confidence.

1. Think about your past achievements

Look at your past and count your achievements. You must have so many achievements and good days in your past life. Make a list of all the achievements that have made you feel proud from your childhood to the present time. Remembering those glorious moments creates energy and positivity in your mind in the present. It helps you to regain that confidence.

2. Focus on your strengths

You already have a lot of good things in you. Whenever you face difficulties or challenges you think about your weaknesses and feel helpless but when you focus on strengths, you start feeling positive and confident. To realize these strengths just think about the bad days and think about what helped you to come out of those days. Again, make a list of strengths you possess and think how can you use those to make a difference.

3. Get proper knowledge

Knowledge is a superpower. Most of the time you feel a lack of confidence when you don’t have a proper and enough knowledge of the field that you are dealing with. If you don’t prepare yourself with proper input, you may lose confidence. Proper preparation prevents poor performance. Learning, revising, practicing, and implementing will make you knowledgeable and confident.

4. Manage positive self-talk

What happens to you when you come across a difficult task or never before done task, you start doubting yourself. Being doubtful about your abilities makes you think negatively about yourself. Thinking negatively about own self is nothing but negative self-talk.

You talk to yourself more than anybody else. Your self-talk reflects in your behavior. You can’t be positive if you are telling yourself that you can’t do it. You must speak yourself positively. You should use such motivating and inspiring words to make you feel confident.

5. Don’t compare yourself with others

Comparing yourself with others is nothing but you are insulting yourself. If you are comparing yourself with those who are excellent to you will make you inferior and that will result in losing confidence. See you are not less or more than anyone else. You are unique. You have your way of thinking. You have your approach toward life and your ways of handling the situation. You are not ahead of anyone or behind anyone. You are at the right place of your own. Don’t compare yourself with others but compare yourself with yourself. Comparing with your performances will boost your confidence as you will realize your improvement.

6. Have a company of motivators

You are an average of five people you hang around with. You feel confident when you are with the people who motivate you. Encourage and offer help to you to excel in your life.

Think about the people around you right now and find how many of them motivate you to face the challenges in your life. You should be surrounded by energy providers. Only confident people can make you confident. Find such confident people and get in touch with them always.

7. Focus on your body movements

Amy Cuddy's wildly popular Ted Talk from 2012 explained the way your posture affects how you feel, using "power poses" as a tip to increase self-confidence. Slouching and bending your head make you feel low confident whereas sitting or standing straight up and holding your head high makes you confident. Sometimes energy flows from the body to the mind. Change in the way you sit, stand, walk and talk brings a change in your state of the mind.

Next time whenever you want to feel this positive emotion of confidence make a slight change in your posture and gesture. You will find yourself full of confidence.

8. Practice positive affirmations

Affirmations are well-prepared instructions. These are prepared according to your need. When you want to feel more confident give yourself positive instructions like ‘day by day I am feeling confident, I am full of confidence, etc. Instructions should be mingled with the emotion of confidence.

9. Learn to handle the criticism

You will find yourself surrounded yourself by a lot of discouraging and criticizing people. People don’t miss a single chance of talking bad about you. They will demotivate you. They will point out your mistakes. To stay firm and to feel confident against such criticism you need to learn to handle the criticism.

Ignoring such critics is the best way to reply to them. Doing the best using your abilities can be the answer to their criticism.

10. Set goals

Goals motivate you to act as well as make you realize your abilities. You feel confident when you act on your goals and achieve many of them. Goals are magnets they fetch you towards them. They provoke you to take action.

A sense of achievement brings you peace of mind and satisfaction. These positive feelings boost your confidence.

To be confident you must do whatever makes you feel low confident.

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